Well … Now that I’m done blubbering over David’s post, I can write one of my own.
He omitted that those vows were preceded by “As I give you this ring, so I promise …” and ended with “… and in understanding, to love.” The ring embodied our promise of an ever-growing, ever-changing dynamic that we hoped would always circle around a fundamental essence.
How were we so impossibly wise at 24?
I totally concur with David: it’s sometimes easier to love and to give than to grow and to understand. Not just in our current situation, but throughout life. Sometimes, I suspect, situations like ours actually make it easier. I know that the last months have helped me to reflect on – to understand – why I love David so deeply.
It is a small tragedy that it took these horrible circumstances to bring that out. Please: today, think of someone you love, and try to put into words why you love them. If you can say it to them, all the better. If not, I hope the exercise enriches your love, and that in turn you give, grow, understand, and love some more.
Two posts to blubber over in one day. Wow. Congrats to both of you, and here's hoping your second 30 years together are even better than the first 30.
ReplyDeleteI have only seconds to get this in on your anniversary, and a lousy phone keyboard...Congratulations to both of you! Some anniversaries mean more than others. This one is an even number a very odd year, a milestone, but perhaps also a touchstone for your relationship moving forward. You each bring out the best in the other, and the rest of us are the beneficiaries. It has been a great privilege to have known you for 2/3 of those years. I love you both very much!
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