Well … Now that I’m done blubbering over David’s post, I can write one of my own.
He omitted that those vows were preceded by “As I give you this ring, so I promise …” and ended with “… and in understanding, to love.” The ring embodied our promise of an ever-growing, ever-changing dynamic that we hoped would always circle around a fundamental essence.
How were we so impossibly wise at 24?
I totally concur with David: it’s sometimes easier to love and to give than to grow and to understand. Not just in our current situation, but throughout life. Sometimes, I suspect, situations like ours actually make it easier. I know that the last months have helped me to reflect on – to understand – why I love David so deeply.
It is a small tragedy that it took these horrible circumstances to bring that out. Please: today, think of someone you love, and try to put into words why you love them. If you can say it to them, all the better. If not, I hope the exercise enriches your love, and that in turn you give, grow, understand, and love some more.
